This might be a controversial topic because it involves something people on the internet tend to get worked up about. I’m talking about parenting! There are many different parenting styles, and as parents, we tend to have convictions as to why we parent the way that we do. I’m no expert, so to each their own. But something that keeps getting asked as we’re renovating Faye’s room is, “How do you design a bedroom with your kid?” Well, technically, I am getting DM’s asking me why I don’t just let Faye have free rein over her own room… So I thought it would be fun to share my philosophy when it comes to designing kid’s spaces.

Polly’s Bedroom

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As someone who loves design, I want my kid’s bedrooms to feel like a reflection of their interests and who they are. Since none of my three children are copied and pasted, I’ve approached each of their rooms differently. For example, Polly’s five and very much in fairytale land, which was the inspiration for her whole room! She couldn’t care less about choosing her own wallpaper and is just happy to have this magical little space of her own.

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Her bedroom in Idaho was her first “big girl room,” and I wanted to combine some darling forest elements while incorporating Polly’s favorite color at the time, Purple. But you’ll notice I went with a purple color that tied in with the rest of the house rather than a super-pigmented, vibrant purple.

Faye, on the other hand…

Faye’s Bedroom

Wallpaper

Faye, my little 9-year-old, wants to be very involved in the process. Ever since she was little, she’s shown an interest in design, so I want to involve her in the process of renovating her room. After presenting her with wallpaper selections that I hand-selected, I let her make the choice! In hindsight, I think I presented her with too many options, which overwhelmed her, but she went with her gut, and she totally nailed it. We did the same process when we renovated her bedroom in Idaho.

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While I let Faye narrow down the wallpaper selections I presented, I chose the coordinating paint color. Kids tend to go with what is their “favorite,” and since I’m the older, wiser parent, I think it’s good to hold the reins a bit.

I like to compare designing to making a meal plan. If we let our kids choose what they wanted to eat in a week, they would likely end up eating pizza, mac and cheese, and chicken nuggets every single night. We would never do that because we, as parents, know better! While our kids don’t need a well-designed room to survive (as opposed to a well-balanced meal), it’s still a huge responsibility. Designing a kid’s room involves money and time, and if it’s important to you, you’re not a bad parent for calling the shots.

Greta’s bedroom

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All of that being said, not every parent cares about design as much as I do! You might be totally fine with handing your kid a paint deck and just going with it. I know a lot of parents who have done this and want their kids to be able to express themselves through the walls of their room. In no way am I trying to put a stop to that. In fact, I have a lot of respect for those parents!

But if you’re like me, and want to use your home design knowledge and skills to make your kid’s bedrooms special for them, you can totally involve them in the process.

Greta, our teenager, mostly wants her room to be a place where she can read, draw, paint, and create, so on one side of her room, we have a desk and an art ledge where she can work and display all of her creations.

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Her bedroom in Idaho doubled as a sleepover room for sisters and cousins. Functionally, it was exactly what she wanted it to be.

I remembered we did a final video of our girls’ bedrooms before we moved from our last house, and in it, I talk through the design decisions. I think it really beautifully portrays my whole philosophy of designing with your child’s interests and personality in mind.

Kids’ bedroom tour

Now, while I’m talking through all the heavy hitters, let’s address one more tricky subject; character bedding. Not only does character bedding tend to be more expensive, but it’s also typically made of cheap quality and won’t last you long. You know what also doesn’t last long? Your child’s current obsession with Frozen. As much as we love Frozen, your child will soon lose interest. You can capture the essence of a character without literally inserting it into the room. Or maybe you buy a cute character stuffy rather than a whole bedding set. That being said, if it makes you happy and your kid happy, I support it.