A Co-Ed Baby Shower. You should try it.

November 16, 2011  —  Written by Julia Marcum 

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I am not a party planner, but I do like to party–so putting on a baby shower for Chris’s brother Cam and his wife, Kasey was a no-brainer.  We had to do it.  Yes, we.  Cam was way too excited to have his first child that I couldn’t fathom leaving him out of the baby shower.  So, Chris suggested we make it co-ed, or maybe I suggested it, either way–the decision was made–Chris and I were doing this thing together. 

Back to the first sentence, I am not a party planner.  There are a bijillion fantastic baby shower themes out there and beautiful tutorials.  I failed miserably at this part.  We ended up hanging a cluster of 15 white balloons over a blue-draped table filled with food.  I think if it wasn’t co-ed, I wouldn’t have been able to pass on the lack of decorations, but the guys definitely didn’t notice and the food and game made up for it.

We had tortellini soup, butternut squash soup, three different breads, and two different autumn-y salads.  For drinks, we served Martinelli’s and I kept dessert simple with homemade chocolate chip cookies.  Everyone ate and mingled first.  And I didn’t take one picture.  In fact, all of the pictures I did take were after the shower was over and some people had already left.  I panicked and made the remaining guests group together.

Once it seemed like everyone was winding down with their lunch, we started getting the game going.  Chris and I brainstormed a lot about what game to play.  Because it was a co-ed shower, and the first baby shower for every man there, we knew that crafts or any game involving guessing what type of candy bar poop was in a diaper was out.  We wanted to get everyone involved, and make sure the guys and girls had a fun time.

So we came up with “The Newly-Parents Game” which follows the same rules as  “The Newlywed Game.”  The tough part was thinking of questions that were appropriate, could spark some laughs, and didn’t leave anyone crying or feeling like a bad parent. Asking trivia questions about how to raise a child were not a good idea.  We didn’t want anyone feeling bad or getting upset.  So, to keep things light, we kept the questions light.  First, the ladies and gents went to opposite sides of the room and were each given 5 pieces of cardstock with 5 questions typed on top.  The men and women had different questions.  We passed out markers for everyone to answer the questions large enough to be read by everyone.

The questions we came up for the girls to answer were:

-What was your biggest craving while pregnant?
-How many pounds did you gain during pregnancy?
-What’s the first thing your husband said when he found out you were pregnant?
-How many pounds did your husband gain during your pregnancy?
-What nursery rhyme does your husband know all the words to?

The questions we had the guys answer were:

-What scares you the most about a newborn?
-What’s your first pick for a girl’s name?
-What is the best brand of diaper?
-How long does a newborn sleep in your room?
-Besides diapers and wipes, what is a must-have in the diaper bag?

Once everyone had their questions answered, the fun began.  In “The Newlywed Game” fashion, we verbally asked the men the questions we had the women answer and visa versa.  There were lots of laughs and some “ah-hah” moments.  In the end, there was a tie–so we gave each couple a Tai Pan Trading gift card.  And then it was onto gifts.
Everyone seemed to have a great time.  I would definitely be down with more co-ed baby showers.  And from the looks of Chris and a couple of his brothers–I think they would be down, too:

 We can’t wait to meet the newest Marcum addition.  He couldn’t be coming to two sweeter people.  We love you Cam and Kasey!

Psst.  If you want to see a real party planner in action, my friend, Lexy, spilled all of the details on the cutest bird-themed baby shower over on her blog today.  It almost made me not publish this post. You won’t want to miss it. 

What do you think?

  1. sophiaadams01 says:

    Hi, Thanks for this post, I am also not party planner, I have no idea about baby shower planner, but i am thankful to you that you give information about party.

  2. Suzanne says:

    Thanks so much! Using all your ideas with my chalk boards!

  3. meaganbriggs3 says:

    I am SO for co-ed showers now after seeing this! It makes it SO much more fun. Holy cow, I’ve been to so many dud showers…sorry, I’m just being honest! I think Bridal showers are a MILLION times worse than baby showers, but I think the games at baby showers really get to me. I love the Newly Parent game. Totally stealing this idea! The food spread sounds amazing! I want to make that autumn salad again!! So good! PS Kasey is the most GORGEOUS pregnant woman. Holy cow. She is glowing!

  4. Okay, so I came over and read your blog and I died at the end. And then I went over to mine and saw your comment. You are hilar. I love your shower because it’s so personal and your family is so great. And I love, love, LOVE the game. That’s so fun for a co-ed shower! I need to make some guy friends so that we can throw a co-ed shower.

    And p.s. you and Kasey are so pretty. I would hate to be in a picture with the two of you. I would. You look great. :)

    Thank you so much for the blog love. You’re such a great friend!

  5. Janene says:

    I loved reading this …. all about people I love so much. Thanks Julia for your interest and love for all things family.

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